How does my child's temperament fit into her understanding of "NO!"?

While all children benefit from clear rules and consistent limit-setting so they know what to expect, and so they can make good decisions for how to behave, we need to adapt our strategies based on what we know about how our children typically approach the world. For example, feisty toddlers who are very persistent and intense emotionally may need more guidance and limits set by parents and caregivers. They also need consistency more than others. They are the kids who remember the one time you gave them that one extra cookie and will not let you forget it-pushing and pushing for that extra treat for months to come. On the other hand, laid back kids, who go with the flow, are more likely to accept changes in the rules; they don’t question that one day they get to watch one video, and the next they get two. Knowing what makes your child tick equips you with the best information for developing successful limit-setting strategies.